healing is a process. one that we sometimes don’t realize we’re in until it’s been completed. as with all good things, it takes time.
my last relationship was a learning experience. i learned the kind of person i didn’t want to be, and i learned the kind of person i didn’t want to put my faith into, and didn’t want or need to be a partner (i use that term loosely).
of course, i couldn’t do that if i kept looking over my shoulder. i had to stare my future square in the eye and say, this is what i want, and this is what i don’t want, and this is how i plan to get there. now, we all know that things don’t always go according to our plans, but having that determination and setting your sights on a goal can make such a difference in your healing process. after a while, i was so far ahead of what i was trying to move away from, that it became just a blip in my past. a thing i don’t even think about most days.
my point is this: you find your strength when you learn to let go. let go of your past, let go of people’s perception of you, let go of your regrets and your insecurities. and what you have left over…that’s the person you’ve been looking for, all your life.